Comments on: This is Personal

By: Jo Beaufoix

Jo Beaufoix — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 08:44:53 +0000

Oh sweetie, I know I’m kind of only just getting to know you, but you are very real and very talented. If it helps, I was one of the ones who got married at 24 and had my first child at 25 and sometimes I wish I’d lived a little bit more first. I don’t regret having my kids, I just sometimes think I’d have like to wait a bit. I’m 33 now and three of my best mates have kids but most of my others don’t yet. There’s time for all of this and I’m sure it will happen soon, but in the mean time don’t feel less of a person. There will be plenty of your married friends who are back home having gone nowhere who really admire what you’re doing and get a little wistful when they think of you and the fact that to them you are really living.

It must be hard not having that close friend where you are yet,but I’m sure it will come. Hug.

By: Kelley

Kelley — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 06:55:45 +0000

Oh babe, hugs for you and you know what? I felt like that at first, but as I got to know my bloggy friends better they mean the world to me. And made me see just how superficial some of my real life friendships are. Sad but true. I know that I can come to my friends from all over the world and get more understanding and support than some that I can see and touch.

You are flesh and blood to me babe.

By: Thalia's Child

Thalia's Child — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 05:24:09 +0000

I understand what you mean. And for what it’s worth, just like everyone else that has posted, you are real to me. (I actually told one of my buddies about you this weekend).

*hug* and *love*

By: Maria

Maria — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 03:03:22 +0000

You seem very real to me. I’m sorry you’re struggling right now.

By: holly

holly — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 23:33:20 +0000

oooooh i really hate doing the “i’ve been there” thing, but really i have. let’s just pretend i didn’t *say* i have and move on.
this lingered in me UNTIL i developed a new circle, ie, i made friendships that were solid in belfast. oh, then i moved to hawaii. and i did the SAME thing again! until i created a new circle there. crap. now i miss them. i need to make a new circle. i got a semi-circle goin’ on, but it just ain’t the same. ..

By: Jovanka

Jovanka — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 21:39:00 +0000

Being in a new country can be challenging and lonely sometimes even when there isn’t a language barrier. Give yourself a break. The downside is that you have a lot of cultural adjustments to make, but the upside is that you’re having unique experiences that relatively few people get to have. Also it seems like you’ve got a few friends there who don’t think you’re abstract!

By: Bientje

Bientje — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 20:13:18 +0000

I always like reading the comments and I don’t really know what to say without sounding cliché…
Never force things, that is one advice I can give you… and a very big hug to comfort you!

By: Memarie Lane

Memarie Lane — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 16:45:43 +0000

I doubt this will help, but while I love my husband and children, if I could do it all over again, I would have stayed single and childless and joined the Peace Corps or something.

By: Dapoppins

Dapoppins — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 16:26:50 +0000

No advice. Just a hug. ((((hug))) It is always hard to know how naked to be on the blog…sometimes, for obvious reasons, it can just be dangerous.

And now for something good! I need your address there in la~la land so I can send you some junk food!

By: jen of a2eatwrite

jen of a2eatwrite — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 16:15:06 +0000

There’s no time clock for things to happen. Yes, there’s that biological clock thing, but you’ve got a good 14 years before you have to panic on that one. That being said, it’s odd to see those around you doing things you may want, too.

Been there, done that. FWIW, I did far better becoming a mother at 34 than I would have at 24, and G-d forbid I would have been a wife at 20, rather than 30. Trust me, it would have been a disaster.

Huge hugs to you. It can be lonely sometimes. Write to folks you feel a connection with. Skype with friends. Skype is a truly wonderful thing. We really can make the world smaller through these cold machines.